Michael’s May Message
Of late I have been speaking to many people who are having problems “transitioning” either in their relationships with themselves, with others, or their careers. We’ve all been there at one time or another and it can be messy being a human being. Freud was correct (and I’m not a Freudian type of person) when he said that if people have at least one of these situations going well in life (love or work) they would be relatively happy. Freud said that love and work (Liebe and Arbeit) are the cornerstones of our humanness.
That being said—there sometimes comes a point of no return in a particular situation. When you have given all you can give, taken all you can take, learned all you can learn, and taught all you can teach, been all you can be—you realize there is no hope of things getting any better, and you have done all you know how to do to turn things around.
When you finally reach this point, please remember, this is not a bad thing. It is simply time to move on. You will know you have come to the point of no return when your joy is gone, your peace is at risk, you are groping or searching for some meaning or you are no longer angry because you can’t even get angry.
When you come face to face with the point of no return, remember the good times, appreciate the joyful times, be grateful for any support, encouragement or contentment you experienced. Don’t cry because its over; smile because it happened. Pack all of those things in a corner of your heart and take them with you as you move forward.
Acknowledge and accept that you may not be able to go back to what you had but that you have something to take with you on your new journey. Perhaps until today you have resisted the need to move beyond the point of no return. You may have been looking for reasons to stay in a situation that no longer suits you or fits you. Why not, just for today, acknowledge your needs and prepare to pack up and move on. You’ll be glad you did!
Michael J. Carter